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No man should judge unless he asks himself in absolute honesty whether in a similar situation he might not have done the same.

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

I see someone announce a VP title or a new venture, and my first thought is: why couldn't I have done that?

It happens fast. Faster than I'd like to admit.

My mom has a line for this: "Comparison is the thief of joy." She's right. And schedulers of all people should know why.

Every role is a bundle. The title and the pay come packaged with the travel, the hours, the reporting lines, and the speed at which anything gets approved. When you compare yourself to someone, you see the part of the bundle they post about. The fourth site visit this month stays off the feed.

So envy makes you want the outcome without pricing the trade-offs.

Here's how that plays out.

Say you want to be home for your kids' games. A senior project controls role at a big contractor pays well. It can also put you on a plane every other week to visit projects. Great money, and you miss the games.

Say you love building things: processes, templates, tools that make the team faster. A large owner organization looks stable and impressive from the outside. It can also take months, sometimes years, to get a simple change approved. You'd spend your best energy waiting in an approval queue.

Both are good jobs for someone with different priorities.

The risk is that you chase the thing you envied and end up with someone else's career. You get their title and their trade-offs, and lose the things you wanted from yours.

You'd never build a schedule without knowing the must-finish dates first. Treat your career the same way. Set your constraints before you look at anyone else's job.

Write down 3 to 5 things you won't trade. Time at home. The kind of work that gives you energy. Where you live. A pay floor.
The next time you feel that pang, write down the role that caused it.
List what that job probably demands. Travel, hours, who you report to, how fast decisions happen. If you know the person, ask them. Most people will tell you the real version over coffee.
Check the role against your list. If it breaks one of your constraints, you have your answer. If it doesn't, the envy just told you something useful about where you want to go. Go after it.

Your energy is better spent on your own next step than on someone else's highlight.